Despite living in a hypersexualized world, millions of women still don’t fully understand their own pleasure. Between 50% and 75% of women do not reach orgasm in all sexual encounters — especially in heterosexual relationships.

August 8, International Female Orgasm Day, is the perfect time to spark conversations that matter: about empowerment, sexual health, and breaking down outdated taboos.

Why is the female orgasm still a mystery?

A lack of sexual education, shame, and cultural myths are part of the problem. Many women don’t know how their bodies work, or feel they’re broken if they can’t climax. Newsflash: you are not broken.

“The orgasm doesn’t follow a single pattern. It may or may not involve contractions, and it doesn’t have to come from penetration. What matters is knowing your body and what brings you pleasure,” says Dr. María Laura Martínez, gynecologist at DIM Health Centers.

6 tips for better, guilt-free orgasms

1. It’s not about penetration: The clitoris — with over 8,000 nerve endings — is key.
2. Everyone is different: Your experience may change over time.
3. Age doesn’t matter: Sexuality doesn’t have an expiration date.
4. Self-exploration is healthy: Pleasure is part of self-care.
5. It’s all in your head: The brain plays a big role.
6. There’s no “one right way” to orgasm.

Real benefits of regular orgasms

Less stress and anxiety
Boosted immunity
Menstrual pain relief
Better sleep and skin
Healthier body image and relationships

Let’s bust some myths

“All women orgasm with penetration”
“If she doesn’t climax, she’s not in love”
“Never had one? Something's wrong”
“It must happen every time”

How to start?

Create time just for you
Use a mirror
Explore with curiosity, not shame
Learn what brings you joy

Self-knowledge is self-care. And talking about pleasure is talking about health.